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Love Is Real

What the hell is love anyway? How does one find their soul mate?  Is love even real? I’ve seen, read and heard these questions over and over throughout the years—quite honestly, I have never asked them of myself. I guess I just don’t get it. It’s as if we want to turn love into a science, instead of allowing it to be the art form that it truly is. In fact, I’d say—love is a dying art. Perhaps people are trying too hard to make it happen. We cannot rush or force love. Love is something that just happens—as naturally as the human existence. My wife Debbie and I weren’t looking for love when we met back in April of 1982. As a matter of fact, weren’t even remotely interested in love, let alone a relationship! We were both just floating along day to day, trying to get through some rather interesting times. Needless to say, the day we met came as a complete shock! We both just wanted to run from each other we were afraid that what we wer...

Love The One Who Loves You

I find it interesting, but not surprising, how most of these answers have selected "a person who loves you." This choice supports what is known in sociology as the principle of least interest . The principle states that the person who is least invested in the intimate relationship has the most power. This is because the person who wants the relationship will be more willing to make compromises and sacrifices to keep the relationship going. Least interested or most indifferent=most powerful. Several answerers have explained their choice by saying that they could grow to love the person they're with. This also has to do with power in a relationship. You want your feelings to develop on your own terms, within your own control. Like Anurup Datta said in his answer, someone on the other side of the fence would be tormented by doubts about his/her partner's feelings (or lack of feelings). Being in a relationship with someone you love when they do not love you is...